Katianna–my love. To be honest, I am a little nervous to write your post. You, an actual professional writer, have the ability to form sentences in precise and beautiful ways. I envy that. I met Katianna freshman year of college, and I immediately fell in love with her quirky sense of humor and her incredible sense of style. I love her laugh. Katianna is a fighter–an ally for those that face troubles–a lighthouse in a storm. I adore that about her. Katianna, you’re my blessing, and my ray of sunshine. I see a future in which you will revel in your tenderness and warmth. Katianna, you are a whole being–a beautiful being. Stay vibrant.
I’ve started this series because through my own self acceptance search/journey I’ve realized that we, as humans, all have problems with our skin suit no matter what it looks like. The point of this series is to confront our flaws AND to highlight our excellence. I hope one day we’ll all be able to wake up and that voice in our mind which lists all our faults on repeat will be much quieter if not silent. The mirror will be less scary. We’ll smile as we pass our gorgeous selves. We’ll have a bounce in our steps. One day we’ll love our bodies exactly as they are right now. We might have bad days . We might have bad weeks. Yet once we unlock that key, that key of self love we’ll know we can get back to a sanctuary within our bodies. Our bodies and our selves are waiting for that love, waiting for that permission to just be. As I said to Kate, (and as I say to all my future spotlights), be gentle with yourself, you are meeting parts of yourself that you have been at war with.
1. What makes you feel beautiful?
I feel beautiful when I’m laughing really hard, or when I’m able to make someone else laugh. It’s in those moments when I’m able to completely forget what it feels like to not feel beautiful at all.
2. What makes you feel powerful?
3. What would you tell your past self about beauty and bodies?
It’s hard to imagine what I’d tell my past self about beauty and bodies, because I’m, in a sense, waiting for that older self to come and sit me down, and tell me I’ll be OK. I suppose I’d tell a younger me to take a breath and to be patient and forgiving with myself.
4. How does your skin color make you feel?
Like many other people have answered, I’m incredibly privileged to live in a white body. There’s a lot I’d change about my complexion, and that’s been the source of a lot of self-hate, but that doesn’t negate the privilege I inherently have.
5. How have you struggled with your body?
I wish I could answer this question in the past tense and talk about how I’ve come to a realization that no one’s perfect, and that I’m beautiful and enough, and that all’s well now! I’m not there yet. I know that’s not a perfect answer. But I’ve learned I’m resilient, and there are things that do make me beautiful. Someone once told me to remember that every day is better than the last one. I believe that.
6. Complete this sentence… “In my body is a safe place to be because….”
… because it’s the only one I’ve got! And I’m so incredibly lucky to have people in my life who remind me of my worth and who love me. What a gift it is to just feel and love, and to just be alive.
From Kate with love.