I remember the first time I met Teccy–we were at the St. Louis JCC getting ready to go be camp counselors at a camp in the middle of Missouri. I remembering locking eyes with her before she rushed over and embraced me. I should have known then that Teccy was going to be in my life for forever. Teccy, you have the biggest heart, and the warmest smile. I love you forever, and thank the heavens for your constant blessings and support. Thank you for your vulnerability. Thank you for sharing!
I’ve started this series because through my own self acceptance search/journey I’ve realized that we, as humans, all have problems with our skin suit no matter what it looks like. The point of this series is to confront our flaws AND to highlight our excellence. I hope one day we’ll all be able to wake up and that voice in our mind which lists all our faults on repeat will be much quieter if not silent. The mirror will be less scary. We’ll smile as we pass our gorgeous selves. We’ll have a bounce in our steps. One day we’ll love our bodies exactly as they are right now. We might have bad days . We might have bad weeks. Yet once we unlock that key, that key of self love we’ll know we can get back to a sanctuary within our bodies. Our bodies and our selves are waiting for that love, waiting for that permission to just be. As I said to Teccy (and as I say to all my future spotlights), be gentle with yourself, you are meeting parts of yourself that you have been at war with.
1. What makes you feel beautiful?
Looking at the people I have mentored and seeing them grow and become beautiful human beings and living with a purpose, that makes me feel like a Princess if not a queen. I have met people who are living life with no purpose at all and helped them find meaning in life and build their lives, I can go on and on coz this makes feel great.
2. What makes you feel powerful?
3. What would you tell your past self about beauty and bodies?
Wow! Growing up I was a very big baby, people would tease me and call me fat and they wouldn’t play with me and that made me feel really bad about myself, I hated to go out and I chose to hangout more with boys than girls so that I don’t feel out of place. Today I would tell my past self that beauty lies in the heart of a person and I should never have let anyone make me feel bad about my color or size. I am just me and that is what matters.
4. How does your skin color make you feel?
Coming from Africa where everyone is black I am comfortable with who I am, BUT when I travel to other countries and people make it look like it’s a bad thing to be BLACK, it’s a horrible feeling…. i have learnt to love me and this days it doesn’t affect me anymore.
5. How have you struggled with your body?
As I mentioned earlier I have always been a big baby and when I didn’t really understand the value of appreciating myself, I did all the diets in the world to just be a size zero, I had to starve myself and eat very horrible things, others even made me sick, but when I took the journey to understand my self-worth I love being me. I take care of myself and size does not matter anymore but it was a struggle to get here.
6. Complete this sentence… “In my body is a safe place to be because….”
“In my body is a safe place to be because I understand me and I know who I am, who I want to become, where I am at and where I want to go. Its about loving me and understanding my value.
From Teccy, with love.